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They dont have "rights". People apply for a visa and if they are lucky enough they may get one. It's not a God given right that they are entitled to one at all. They're not playing with peoples' lives, they're working through the process. What people choose to do with their lives while they wait - for success or not - is up to them. Nobody is forcing them to stay in Australia if they don't like the way things are going - it's a free country, they may leave.

I'm with Jet Blast. Those prices are pretty good and i would do anything to avoid Dubai, it's just user un-friendly! Singapore is much better.

Unfortunately you are dealing with a bureaucracy and you are under no obligation to apply, it is what it is. You don't have to put your lives on hold, you can do what you like, go somewhere else if you get a better offer but remember that the process isn't for your benefit. It's your choice to sit and wait or if you can't be bothered then move on. Australia is under no obligation to take anyone just because they want to live there.

https://www.ndis.gov.au/about-us/operational-guidelines/access-ndis-table-contents/access-ndis-determining-whether Get all assessments updated - cognitive functioning, adaptive behaviour, skill levels, language assessments, physical functionality and ieps. That's going to be a reasonable starting point - be sure that assessments are objective and assessors qualifications are clearly listed. Coming from UK you should be OK but if they need more they will ask you for more or want to make their own assessments. Its not the smoothest of processes and everyone I know complains about the lack of funding and resources to access.

You apply for them as dependents on your visa.

No, they are registered agents who specialise in migration with medical conditions. He will tell you if you're wasting your time and money. If there are changes to immigration policy is not likely to be an increase in people who p potentially cost the tax payer lots of money.

If your son requires full time support in school, quite honestly I would say your chances are very very slim. The catch 22 usually is that if a child can get a visa they will get no help in school and if they are eligible for help in school they are unlikely to get a visa. Best bet it to get a full psycho educational assessment including cognitive function, adaptive behaviour and current skill level and run it past one of the agents who specialise in medical conditions. George Lombard, Peter Bollard, Richard Gregan and maybe some others have medical advisors on board, they're the ones who can tell you for sure. Having family in Australia is irrelevant as is your capacity to pay the $50kpa or whatever for full time support in school - you could change your mind at any time of your circumstances could change

Dollars.

They haven't yet but primary teachers aren't on most lists any more and there are restrictions about the specialist areas. I wouldn't be sanguine about secondary teachers staying on although there is a fair movement of science and maths teachers through the profession as graduates find they can do better in other areas using their skills. Humanities teachers are well over subscribed. If they took it off one would hope that you would continue with a career that you love - never opt for teaching because you think it's an easy way to get a visa.

Good bloke Dutton, hope he's there for a very long time. Australia should do what UK does - your ILR expires after 2 years absence - none of this RRV stuff after you've been away 10 years. It's about time too they started putting no further stay restrictions on tourist visas with so many people deciding to lie about their intentions to stay, just rocking up on tourist visas and staying on bridging visas.

There's not really a shortage of teachers just teachers who are prepared to go to places that nobody actually wants to live in, don't be misled by the impression that teachers are in demand. There's are thousands of young -Australian teachers who can't get jobs in graduation.

Works out fine. You're choosing to be on the other side of the world, you can call her if you're worried and vice versa. Make sure you've got enough space on the credit card to go back should you need to in an emergency. As long as you've done a good job as a parent and raised a resourceful independent adult she will be fine and so will you. Out of sight, out of mind is a good survival strategy. One of mine accidentally emigrated to UK at that age and then when we accidentally emigrated back we left one in Australia. Grandparenting sucks via Skype but you get used to it.

Talk to one of the agents specialising in medical conditions - George Lombard or Peter Bollard are the two usually mentioned but I believe there may now be some others who have medical specialists in their team. If you're getting updated psycho educational assessments that's a good start - cognitive, adaptive behaviors, skill levels etc along with current iep. Usual situation is that if he's getting additional support in school that will impact negatively. Catch 22 is that if he gets a visa he's unlikely to get any disability support in education. If he's independent in mainstream with no additional support he should be OK.

Really won’t matter how much school he misses out on, nobody will give two hoots, get your permanent residence sorted first. Assuming he meets the cut off - and be aware that even if he is close to cut off (from about April onwards) you may be advised to delay his entry into full time school if he appears immature in comparison with the cohort. If he does make the cut off and you have a rental agreement then just rock up to the school with that, his visa and his vaccinations book (I believe there are some that the UK doesn’t do but which are expected in Australia) and he will be able to start there and then although schools do usually ask for a couple of days to get things organised.

Don’t take it personally! Some folk get their knickers in a knot when anyone complains about the “perfect” weather. Each to their own! I can’t stand the heat either! Passports are easy - leave Australia on an Aussie one then put it in your bag and use your U.K. one for the rest of the trip. Don’t enter U.K. on your foreign passport because they’ll slap you with a 6 month visitor visa and that can lead to a bureaucratic snaggle at some point. I can’t recall inputting any passport detail when booking flights. Bon Voyage!

Why would living in UK make any difference? Everyone needs their skills assessed in some way, just follow the process for your skill. Sometimes it’s practical sometimes an assessment of your qualifications.

You mean she is an Aussie citizen? If so she can’t get a visa, just travels on her Australian passport.

Just saw an amazing video of a bloke near Townsville with a drive running through - his ute had gone, Sept under the house, shed has gone - looked like a right disaster. Hope none of you guys are being flooded out!

Is all the heartache worth it? Who knows. Tell them that it's only going to be a couple of years then you will reevaluate but in the meantime you will be home for holidays. They'll get used to it once they get through their grief and they will either cut you off without a penny or accept that you're doing what you want to do with your life - your relationship with them is probably going to change unless they have a real change of heart. I'd be pragmatic about the rationale - better money, tick, new opportunities, tick, career enhancement, tick, adventure, tick. The "better life" thing - probably not so much, it's another first world country with all the first world country things that crop up elsewhere and the downside is that you will be isolated from extended family so very much a swings and roundabouts on that one. Better weather - ah the old bete noir - some folk (like me) find the heat more oppressive than the cold and spending your days inside in air conditioned comfort (or in our case with the doors and curtains closed) because it was too much like an oven outside can be just as restricting as togging up with a fleece and mittens and going out in the snow. I've managed to lose 50kg in UK because I am considerably more active than I could be in Canberra! I walk everywhere, there is barely a day that goes by when I cannot do whatever it is I have planned - in Canberra I was so unfit that I couldnt even walk the 1km to the local shops - and wouldn't have done anyway, that's what cars are for:-) As an older person, I will say that the trip sucks but I've been doing it regularly over 40 years now and whilst it doesnt faze me, it isn't the most wonderful experience of my life, but I reckon I can put up with almost anything for 24 hours. If you're someone who hasn't done the long haul flights then it will be expensive and time consuming and maybe it isnt fair to expect older parents to put themselves out if you are the ones who have done the leaving. Should you go - hell yes, if you want to, it's your life, you take the best opportunities that come your way and if in the process you upset someone then so be it. To be a successful migrant you have to be incredibly self sufficient and quite selfish otherwise you would go down in a crumpled heap. Is it fair for your parents to play the guilt card? NO, of course not but when people grieve, you would know better than most, all the stages they will go through and make no mistake it is grief - grief for a lost stage of their lives (even I get pissed off when my friends with local grandkids keep blathering on about what they've done with the grandkids - 2 of mine are on the other side of the world and the other is a 3 hour train trip away.) They will have their "absent grandkids" noses rubbed it in constantly and no amount of FaceTime or Skype is going to cure that hole in their lives (Ive yet to meet someone who can get a cuddle over Skype!) and how they handle it is going to be up to them. If they have other grandkids they will probably cope better than if yours are the only ones. Will your kids cope without their grandparents? Probably but some have struggled. Good luck, there are no easy answers unfortunately!

Do give CBT a try - it's a little bag of survival tricks (well, that's how I look at it) - things like Thought Stopping could be handy - when those intrusive thoughts stop you from doing what you are supposed to be doing basically say "STOP! That's a going home thought and I will think of you at (insert time here)" at which time, if the thought reappears for its appointment you can give it half an hour, write down what it is your thinking is generating with some actions for things you can do then say goodbye at the end of the appointment (dont wallow in it). If your intrusive thought doesnt turn up for it's appointment but turns up later then say "STOP" and make another time! When I told the thoughts to go away I used to have a repertoire of movies that I replayed in my mind to drown out the sound - it's amazing how persuasive Rufus Sewell can be when you are fantasising about him LOL. I used to allocate shower time as "going home cogitation time" - that way I could cry and nobody would know - my DH had no idea in the beginning but he was getting worried because my showers could be quite long (stuff the water restrictions!) until one day I told him why and he used to tune in to see how low I was feeling by the length of the shower and he was emotionally (but not practically) quite supportive. You have to learn that you have control over your thoughts - some of them are worth working with but others are just wasting your time so you should try and end up with an action plan for how you are going to deal with the issues and move on. I think it would be a good idea to write down the issues you have - I used to be a blubbering mess at the GPs too and you dont want to miss a point. Make a list of the things you are missing in your life and the actions you think would go some way to alleviating them, list the compromises you would be prepared to make but also the compromises you want in return. Why would a husband not want to support his wife through marriage guidance? He must know that you are very unhappy, surely he would want to help you work your way out of it (OTOH he is an Aussie male, they're not the sharpest tools in the shed when it comes to women's feelings LOL) If he has UK born parents (bonus!) he could be entitled to citizenship, if he has UK born grandparents he can get an ancestry visa (just in case your compromise scenario of a Sabbatical comes to fruition) but if he has neither, then you would be relying on a spouse visa and, quite honestly I wouldn't bother (hard work and lots of money including a job for you of £18.5kpa or £62.5k in accessible savings) - look at other ways you could get a compromise rather than him returning to UK with you. I did chuckle at the thought of you hugging the trees and the lamp posts - they're not the best at reciprocating unfortunately!

Lol, it's a far from cute person!!! Sympathies from me too but, sadly, no magic answers. You have exogenous or situational depression most likely. Only cure for that is to remove yourself from the situation which is causing you angst. However, there are ways of living with it - to how much detriment to your mental health I don't know (pretty substantial negative impact on mine and I thought I was dealing with it reasonably well) I would suggest a trip to your GP to talk about a mental health plan with a good CBT or ACT therapist (different strategies work with different people) for starters, try and get your thinking clear and manage any irrational thinking which may be going on there. Then I'd suggest you both head off for Marriage Guidance counselling. Your DH has to realise the enormity of the problem that you are facing every day and the two of you need to come up with a compromise scenario eg in retirement you go home and he goes bush for that period (mine wanted to go and live in the bloody bush on 40 self sufficient acres and build our own home in retirement - I had some non negotiable items about that so, fortunately it died a death!) or Could you agree, say, a 3 year UK sabbatical before hitching up the caravan? - the key here is going to have to be compromise or is not going to work. Big question - could your husband actually live in UK? Is he a citizen? If he did a total about face would you need to be looking at things like ancestry visas or spouse visas? If you are then I would say the point is moot, it's probably not going to be financially viable in later years unless you've got a nice little super nest egg somewhere. As for your kids - they'll live their own lives and could end up anywhere from Azerbaijan to Zimbabwe, families seen to spread around these days and, sure, you may not get hands on grandparenting is up to you how to deal with that. Bottom line - what is your least worst option? There with him or here (I'm in UK) without him? For me, it was a no brainer. You can't cuddle a country and I wanted to grow old beside him. Just reframing my thinking into "this is the choice I am making" gave me control of it, I wasn't the victim of someone else's decisions. I survived for a decade with trips home once or twice a year and that kept most of the demons at bay - always booking my next trip at the end of the last. I was unbelievably lucky though when I dragged my very recalcitrant husband over for our son's wedding (he would have missed it if he could, his tomato plants needed tending!) and he took one look at my parents and before the first week was out he said "we can't leave then here alone like this " - only child, parents nearly 90 then. So he went back to Australia to tidy up a few ends then returned and we basically just didn't go back from our holiday. Prior to that I had got to the stage where I would literally vomit before leaving UK and I have been known to bawl my eyes out all the way to London on the train at the thought of leaving. Living here for 7 years now has been amazing - I've lost almost half my body weight because I walk everywhere, I love the variety of everything - even just walking into town (5 miles) there's always something different unlike walking in the bush near our place in Australia - I swear the same ant heaps and bark drop have been there Unchanged for the past 40 years! I can now view a return with some sense of adventure and I've promised the DH that we will return (he's been the most fantastic husband while we've been here, neither of us would ever have imagined it! But being full time carers of the elderly is not a picnic!) when my dad pops his clogs. Happy to talk any time, you're in an invidious position unfortunately but I'm sure you're a strong woman who will come up with a compromise which will give you the best of all worlds!

Won’t you be coming as a dependent on your husband’s visa? If he’s being seconded he will be on one of the temporary residence visas and you just tag along as a dependent. You don't need a business visa in your own right

Won't make any difference what year your daughter had been in in UK, she's moving to a foreign country with a different (many different!) educating system/s. She will be placed with her age peers so the only thing of interest will be her birth date and most 6 year olds will be in yr 1 this year. https://www.humanservices.gov.au/individuals/services/centrelink/child-care-subsidy is a starting place for child care subsidy info.

That you will need to have the skills which make you eligible to apply for one.

Yup that residency rule has caught out a lot of folk wanting to join the police force in UK. I know of a few folk who were caught by that - one had been making time on something quite different, joining up soon and the other has changed careers entirely and doing very well. Good to hear the Lake is looking well. About 10 years ago on NY Day, my husband walked the length of the rowing course - on the lake bed!