Que Sera Sera

There is a smoked cod, but It's presented on ice but is frozen and then thawed. It's not Australian though. Basa again frozen and thawed is absolutely a best seller mainly as its as cheap as chips. All of the fresh Australian fish are nice in my opinion. Rankin Cod, Barra and Snapper especia

ly Sweetlips is gorgeous.

Where do you stand if you have an expired passport ?

Our sons had expired it wasn't a problem :wubclub:

9 months is a really long time to wait without being able to leave the country. Did you knew it would have taken 9 months, or you just waited patiently until you received the invitation 6 weeks prior to the ceremony? Was it a small town?

We applied for our Citizenship and had the test at the end of July. In September we flew to England for two weeks, then had our ceremony at the end of October. Our visas had not expired though and we travelled on our British Passports.

A horrible situation to find yourself in. I think some people just do not research and understand the ramifications of many aspects of migration. If one of you isn't keen that's the biggest red flag! No one can predict a marriage failure of course not but if you both want to be there to stay this isn't so much an issue. Of course also many will emigrate to be with a partner without a great deal of shared life experience, sometimes as little as 6 months, all a big worry.

Happy Aussiversary xx

Thanks Ali, time sure does fly.

5 years ago today we climbed onto that shiny white bird to start our amazing new life here. Never regretted it for one single moment, and genuinely miss nothing. My OH misses his Soccer team and the local pub but other than that he too is very happy. We came out with £10,000 and very little else. 5 years on we are doing alright for ourselves, giving ourself a great but deliberately fairly modest life. Yes would love a boat etc etc but I like not working full time much much more. We've met some lovely people and have some really good friends. OH is FIFO at the moment and we are saving like little squirrels to pay the mortgage off. So far so good.........:cool:

Hi,

 

Could you share your experience, whether you had positive medical from DIAG.

 

I am planning to raise EOI now for applying visa 189. My son who is 18 months old now, had tetralogy of fallot. Defect was fully repaired when he 4.5 months old and is normal now. As you are aware, he may or may not require Pulmonary Valve replacement at a later stage of his life.

 

I am in a confusion, whether his medical will go through. He was operated by Dr. Victor Tsang, Chief Pediatric cardiothoracic surgeon, Great Ormond Street Hosp. London.

 

Please guide me.

 

Regards,

If there are medical concerns you should consult with A MARA registered agent before submitting anything.

Taking your advice and noisily sobbing while I have the house to myself. I feel like the pain will never end! It's all a bit fresh at the moment and I am struggling to come to terms with it. I have spoken with him today ... calmly and supporting about his plans .. which was really hard but proud of myself for not crying. I love him so dearly and am missing him before he has even left! I phoned my mum and dad ..both in their seventies and they were round like a shot with cuddles and comfort and they are hurting too. Going to try and maintain a happy and positive outlook for the remaining time we have ... we are having our first ski trip as a family in March ... so chance to create more happy memories. I am fast running out of tissues.

Can you start planning your first visit out. Look up flights and Google where they are going to be living. It helps to feel part of the move.

I suspect it could be a littles less rare if contraception, and termination weren't a factor. Lots of women years ago had children " on the change"

It's stretched out to pubs now jock. Me and the wife went to the breakwater (a nice pub at Hillary's with a big deck out the back, looking over the marina and Ocean) for lunch a few weeks ago. We couldn't get on the deck for Mum's with prams, young kids running around and tremendous noise from the kids not being tended to 'cos the Mum was too interested in the conversation and the glass of wine. What is it with young Mum's? Do their ears tune out the sound of screaming automatically?:laugh:

The village pub was like that where I came from in the UK. From opening at lunch time to school pick up time. The pub was about 5 houses down from the primary school. If we popped in for lunch on a Friday when OH had finished nights and I had finished work, the place was full of trodden in crisps empty coke cans and fruit shoot bottles. No work for any of them just one big social for 3 hours then stagger down to the school gate, or the very unlucky little ones might get driven home by their Mother.

My nearly 4 year old boy has started answering back! All the time. Driving me nuts.

I take that as a sign of inteligence at that age. You can't just tell them what to do, you have to have a reason for the request :laugh:

PHIL Mitchell springs to mind or failing that Harry Hill :wink:

My eldest was beautiful but she had a proper squashed cone head. They put a hat on her before I was allowed to look at her. Soon went down though :laugh:

The suggestion that a mother would abandon her baby if it wasn't cute enough is very low imo.

 

I cannot imagine any mother doing that.

 

But obviously some of the mums agree and have given it a like.

 

I hope to God these Mums have very cute babies.

I think it was meant tongue in cheek, like the saying goes " He had a face only a Mother could love"

See, that's the kind of statement that upsets me. That statement implies there is something "unnatural" because I don't feel clucky about babies.

 

I don't think you can say that of other species, because other species don't know how to use birth control - they don't have babies because they have a maternal instinct, they have babies because they're an inevitable consequence of sex! Besides, many other species don't take any interest in babies which are not their own - and mamy even kill other mother's offspring which suggests the opposite!

 

After a baby is born, then that's a different kind of maternal instinct. I do know women who couldn't be bothered with babies before their own child arrived, and then they were devoted. Again, however, I don't think you can draw any conclusion from other species or even from women in general: you don't know how they feel, only how they behave. If I had ever got pregnant, there is no way I would've walked away from that child - it would be my responsibility as a human being, regardless of whether I turned all gooey-eyed.

I think it's perfectly natural and normal and good on you for not being pressured into doing something you didn't want to do. I have a friend Lisa who was fantastic with my children, would play with them until the cows came home but she never ever wanted any of her own. She loved her independence and fortunately met a man who felt exactly the same. If my first hadn't been a happy accident I may not have had them who knows. My EX wasn't very keen. I'd never even held a baby until mine was put in my arms, Id always refused.

I don't think any of us who aren't maternal ever know how we'll feel. Three kids later and I still wouldn't call myself maternal. I don't do babies and kids even now. Looking forward to my Grandmother cuddles though :wubclub:

Ill take the risk at 30 - 35. We only assume that we can get pregnant easily in our 20's anyway. Some people don't find it as easy

When I was pregnant with my 3rd at 33 all the girls in my Ante Natal group were the same age as me or older and all on their 1st. It's pretty normal now . My pregnancy was also far easier than my 1st at 23 ( I was as sick as a dog for 9 months ) didn't put on any weight though :laugh:

Our son has dyslexia. It was not picked up at his local primary school in Sydney. It wasn't until year 7 at his new high school (private) that we asked for the speech pathologist to please see him and complete an assessment. She came back with auditory processing disorder, we thought OK, now what are the school going to do to help. The answer ? .... a big fat zero. The only assistance available is regular appointment with the speech pathologist at stupid money per hour !!

 

This is not an isolated incident, if your child has dyslexia they will not receive the kind of support that is offered in UK schools. You will have to look for a dyslexia tutor outside of school, it will be expensive and hard to find. I have spoken to british dyslexic tutors who work here, who have long waiting lists and who all, without fail, have been appalled at the lack of recognition and support of dyslexic students.

 

This is just a heads up for anyone who is thinking of moving here and their child requires that extra help.

 

The emphasis is very much on the gifted and talented kids.

I also don't agree that the emphasis is on the gifted and talented, sorry but the vast majority don't get into it. My son did but I didn't like the school so went private instead. It sounds like you are moving back to the UK and justifying your reasons. All fine and good but maybe don't try and scare everybody. The school I was going to send my son to in the GATE, was not for us, but I've two friends who have sent their Autistic children there and rave about it. Different children different requirements . Speech therapy seems to be quite common here too. Are you on a PR visa or a tempory one?

My OH has Dyslexia , his wasn't picked up until he was at college in the UK. He had no help at all but has managed full and well, got his skills and has had no negative impact here or in the UK.

Not sure about 25 to 35 being much the same. But after 35 is probably getting towards the now or never time for sure.

 

My mum had me at 36 though so of course it is not impossible.

My Auntie lost her son aged 11 to Leukemia. She decided to have another child to help her grief at age 42. She conceived naturally and happily with no side affects to my cousin so yes it does happen. Wouldn't fancy it myself though :laugh:

Blossom I've googled a bit since you wrote that and everything I've read backs up what I wrote.

 

eg.

The NHS agrees that 35 is a key age when it comes to female fertility. Women are most fertile in their early 20s and their fertility declines with age. From the age of 35, this fall becomes steeper.

‘Women in the 19-26 age group have double the chance of conceiving each menstrual cycle compared with 35-39-year olds,’ explains Fertility UK fertility nurse specialist Jane Knight.

Women over 35 are also less likely to become pregnant from fertility treatments like IVF, and are more likely to suffer from miscarriages.

Read more at http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/blogs/543796/fertility-when-does-your-biological-clock-really-start-ticking.html#3pWiTrXoLEdcZfkX.99

 

 

Parley you've agreed with what she said. 25-35 much the same it's after 35 that's the problem. I think we all know some couple that have had children accidently even up to late forties early fifties thinking they are on the menopause .

I'm staying home with our children until they are both at school. I love it and feel lucky that I am in a situation to be able to do it, thanks to a supportive hubby. It wasn't my initial intention though as I had planned to go back to work part time after my maternity leave with my first child, but couldnt do it (lasted 3 days, 3 days of crying). It's not an easy job mind and my nearly 4 year old is definitely ready for school!

Good for you. I didn't have a choice really pay the mortgage or stay home with my children. Until we came here anyway. I stayed home for two years until our son started Highchool but then got ' a bit ' bored so now work ' a bit ' haha

I'm glad I've had mine in my mid-late 20's. That way when they eventually move out I'll still be young..ish

Ah that was my plan too, but end of marriage then new marriage to someone who wanted children, result another at 33, so it will be a while yet I hope.

Oh yes it has. As a child growing up in the 1950s, I didn't know one family where the wife was employed outside the home after marriage - none of our friends or neighbours, none of the kids I knew at school. And all those houses are are now beyond my price range. :mad:

 

I've also done a lot of research on previous generations of my family. Most of them owned property - and all of those on one wage.

Have to agree. A gereration or so ago staying home with the baby was the norm, going out to work was deemed strange.

I actually think you have to have an exeptionally strong marriage to survive children and an even stronger marriage to survive Step Children. They do have a uncanny knack at finding cracks and turning them into craters. Lovely as they are :wink: